What Motivates a Person to Believe in Determinism?

This is not an argument for free will. You can already find volumes of literature on free will vs. determinism. That debate has been raging for a long time. This is an exploration

How to Transcend Your Inner Critic

"It’s not like anyone is going to read your useless garbage anyway,” my inner critic tells me. Damn, that dude is mean. I’m just trying to write a decent article

Why You Need to Stop Holding Your Tongue

> “If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself.”   — Cheryl Richardson Constant tension with a hint of bitterness. That’s what it feels like to have a

How to Stay Sane in America (2022)

Mandates and Metaverses and Tik Tok videos and capitol break-ins — and that was only 2021. America has been hurting for a while now, and our collective mental health is hitting an all-time low

What Does It Mean to Be a Spiritual Person?

“Oh, you’re a spiritual person? Please.” “Do you collect healing crystals? Do you know the zodiac signs? Do you make your decisions based on a tarot deck?” This is why I don’

Shame Could Be The Source of Your Self Sabotage

Shame is no joke. The wounds from your childhood affect your behaviors, relationships, and ability to feel any sort of positive emotion about yourself. Shame that goes unaddressed can keep you from everything

Will Lucid Dreaming Give You The Answers You Seek?

> “What dreaming does is give us the fluidity to enter into other worlds by destroying our sense of knowing this world.” – Carlos Castaneda Have you ever become aware you were dreaming? Did

You Know Dopamine Detox Isn’t a Real Thing, Right?

Videogames, pizza, porn, social media notifications, youtube videos, cigarettes, potato chips — all sources of pleasure that many of us become addicted to. People online have come up with a way to kick these

5 Reasons You Deserve to Be Happy

> “Being cut off from our own natural self-compassion is one of the greatest impairments we can suffer. Along with our ability to feel our own pain go our best hopes for healing,

5 Reasons America Is More Politically Divided Than Ever

Hey Americans, remember when politics were boring? Things would happen. There would be elections. You would get some entertainment out of seeing Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert make fun of someone’s blunders,

8 Strategies for Conquering Fear in the Moment

When I was 20, I was afraid of everything. What people thought, the universe, my feelings, speaking, failing, succeeding, and just being alive. Everything felt like a boundary, and I had nowhere to

How to Beat Your Anxiety with Mental Jiu-Jitsu

Have you ever heard this quote from Dune [https://dune.fandom.com/wiki/Litany_Against_Fear]? > I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.

If You Want to Truly Live, Stop Choosing Death

Have you ever run from what you needed most? If you have, then you may have chosen death. When it came time to follow through on your commitment, or keep your promise, or

The 5 Golden Keys to Mental Freedom in 2022

In 2022, it’s easy to feel trapped by social media, people’s expectations, 24-hour news feeds, and just plain old fear. I don’t know about you, but I’m looking for

If You Need a Good Cry, Try this Strategy

Sometimes, we need to let it flow. And I’m telling you this as a man: Men cry too. It just means you really give a shit about something. > Everyone knows that

Let Your Subconscious Handle Your Problems

I always assume that thinking is going to solve my problems. I assume that the more mental effort I put into something, the greater the outcome will be. And sometimes, that works. But

Why the Internet Is Ruining Your Life

The internet isn’t the world. It is only a window to the world, one that we’re free to look in while sitting safely on the toilet. So, seeing as we all

Herman Cain Award is the Worst Example of COVID Divisiveness

This is wrong. All of it. Whatever is developing here, it’s not the way. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- What Is the Herman Cain Award? Have you ever heard of the Darwin award? It was a

A Battle in Your Head Is as Real as Any Other

If you plucked a random person off the street and looked into their mind, you’d find a matrix of hopes, dreams, fears, and pain. The burdens people carry can be impossible to

The Best Years of Your Life Do Not Exist

Has anyone ever told you, “You better enjoy this time. These are the best years of your life.” How did that make you feel? What if those years weren’t your best? What

Stop Turning Sleep Into a Health Craze

In recent years, neurologists [https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/the-science-of-sleep-understanding-what-happens-when-you-sleep#:~:text=Researchers%20also%20believe%20that%20sleep,sleep%2C%20their%20health%20risks%20rise.] , psychologists, [https://www.apa.org/topics/sleep/why] and athletic

10 Empowering Ways to Be Less Nice and More Free

> The fundamental cause of the trouble is that in the modern world the stupid are cocksure while the intelligent are full of doubt.”  – Bertrand Russell [https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/6050-the-fundamental-cause-of-the-trouble-is-that-in-the] Nice

If You Want to Quit Overthinking, Stop Chasing The Rabbit

Thinking is wonderful when it’s not ruining your life. Wondering, pondering, and reflecting are necessary and important. But overthinkers know how often thoughts can lead to self-destruction. I always valued the saying,

6 Mindsets for When You Feel Like You Don’t Belong

Sometimes you get the vibe that you don’t belong. You can’t call it a consequence of being introverted. Many introverts excel in social situations. No, I’m talking about feeling uncomfortably

These Are the Hardest Parts of Going to Therapy

I support anyone who is going to therapy, especially now. Micheal Phelps [https://www.talkspace.com/michael], the greatest olympian who ever lived, is openly seeking and supporting therapy. Despite mastering one of

5 Lies That All Socially Anxious People Believe

Social anxiety is an illusion fueled by false beliefs and low self-esteem. Bad experiences, rotten relationships, and weird upbringings make people believe that communication is dangerous and that rejection will shatter their souls

The 3 Reasons You Don’t Feel Worthy of Success

Imagine you’re an Olympic athlete. A sprinter. It’s the one hundred-meter dash. You plan on running faster than any human has ever run, and you’re favored to win. You’ve

Being Wrong Is Better Than Being Timid

In The Elements of Style (a writing book), the author’s English professor, William Strunk, was obsessed with tearing down weak writing. He hated any form of expression that held itself back. To

How to Overcome Your Intrusive Thoughts

When I was thirteen, intrusive thoughts dominated my reality. If I had a bad thought about someone in my life, I felt my relationship with them would become dishonest from that point forward,

3 Powerful Reasons You Should Stop Apologizing

What are you really doing when you're apologizing? “Feeling regret or penitence” is one definition [https://www.google.com/search?q=sorry+defintion&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS912US913&oq=sorry+defintion&

5 False Beliefs That Lead to Self Defeat

When it came to self-defeat, I was undefeated. I took every opportunity to rob myself of happiness, prevent progress, and slap my own face. I was a tyrant to myself, and I thought

I Almost Did Something Terrible to Myself (Self-Harm)

Warning: Content addresses self-harm and suicidal thoughts. This article was featured on Medium.com [https://medium.com/invisible-illness/i-almost-did-something-terrible-to-myself-b947f88083bb] I was twenty-four years old, and I humiliated myself. I don’t remember exactly

Don't Let Social Anxiety Get You Killed

This is what social anxiety and self-denial look like. And this is what you should never, ever do. No matter how shy you are. I took a leap in 2018. I went on

Why No One Can Hear You When You Talk

“How the hell did she not hear me?” I was making small talk with a customer at my job. I said something clearly, audibly, and without mumbling, to her face. She completely ignored

Stop Beating Yourself Up for Botching a Handshake

I botched the shit out of a handshake today. It’s still gnawing at me. Have you ever done that? My jiu-jitsu coach was the victim. We had just finished our sparring session

6 Empowering Lessons from Terence McKenna

Terence McKenna [https://psychedelicreview.com/person/terence-mckenna/] did a lot of drugs. That’s an understatement. Timothy Leary, the figurehead of the 60s LSD counterculture, called him the “Timothy Leary of the 90s.

5 Keys to Achieving Rock Solid Consistency

Consistency is key. You ever heard that? I’m not a fan of clichés, but this one gets a pass because it’s true. Consistent habits appreciate over time, like good investments. It’

How to Escape an OCD Thought Loop

It’s amazing how a person can get lost in their own head. An OCD Thought Loop will do that. When I was a kid, I developed the strangest obsession. And, no lie,

Why is Mental Illness so Common in 2021?

> “It’s here. It’s there. It’s everywhere. Tears soak each card the dealer’s dealt. Time taught me to see every second as heaven even though they’re perfectly disguised

5 Ways to Know You've Found the Right Therapist

I’ve seen five therapists in the last ten years. But who’s counting, right? I have some understanding of what it’s like to not find the right therapist. Their job is

What You Should Know if You're Trying to Change

Change is pain. It’s the truth. When you decide to change, you risk losing your friends, your financial security, your reputation, your comfort, and your wellbeing. What if the people you care

Focusing: A Strange, but Effective Alternative to Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness is overrated. Focusing is better. Kidding (sort of). Vipassana [https://mindworks.org/blog/what-is-vipassana-meditation/#:~:text=Vipassana%20is%20usually%20translated%20as,and%20our%20perception%20of%20things.] (mindfulness) mediation involves placing your attention on

Which Is More Helpful: Tough Love or Empathy?

How do you help a friend whose mental health is starting to crumble? Do you use tough love, or do you just listen? I came across an image [https://www.reddit.com/r/

Scrupulosity OCD Got Me Into a Toxic Relationship With God

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder has many faces. It can manifest in the most bizarre, personal ways. In the world’s eye, OCD is about hygiene, symmetry, order, and goofy idiosyncrasies. Scrupulosity OCD proves there is

How to Succeed When You Have a Fear of Success

What sounds scarier to you? Failure, humiliation, and disappointment? Or, accomplishing goals, reaching destinations, and doing things you never thought you could do? Failure is everyone’s worst fear…right? When someone decides

Comparing Suffering Harms Everyone

I’m not trying to bring you down. But, has anyone ever told you you haven’t suffered? Dismissed your problems? Ignored your sadness and told you you’re “fine.” We have a

10 Signs You're Hanging Out With a Narcissist

I never expected to meet a narcissist. When I was younger, I was naïve, and more than a little insecure. I didn’t expect anyone to have bad intentions and would do my

The 4 Fundamental Elements of Confidence

What does insecurity look like? Here are some common traits of someone who lacks confidence: * You’re offended over harmless comments * You need approval and praise from the people around you * You’re