They call David Goggins the toughest man on Earth. He had something to say about
coddling in his acceptance speech [https://youtu.be/mJMwKQSovjo?t=251] for the
VFW Americanism award.
Teary-eyed, his
"It’s not like anyone is going to read your useless garbage anyway,” my inner
critic tells me. Damn, that dude is mean. I’m just trying to write a decent
article here.
> “If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself.”
— Cheryl Richardson
Constant tension with a hint of bitterness. That’s what it feels like to have a
habit
Shame is no joke.
The wounds from your childhood affect your behaviors, relationships, and ability
to feel any sort of positive emotion about yourself. Shame that goes unaddressed
can keep you from everything
> “Being cut off from our own natural self-compassion is one of the greatest
impairments we can suffer. Along with our ability to feel our own pain go our
best hopes for healing, dignity
Pain is something you can get used to.
If you’re in pain all the time, you can adjust to it until it becomes your
reality. You can forget that a better life
Some days, you wake up running low on hope. Everything feels heavier than it
should, and you’re not sure if you can face the day.
I call these hard days, and they
Depression is a hope parasite.
When you’re exhausted and in pain, it’s not because there is something wrong
with your body. It’s because something is draining your reasons for moving
In 2022, it’s easy to feel trapped by social media, people’s expectations,
24-hour news feeds, and just plain old fear. I don’t know about you, but I’m
looking for
Sometimes, we need to let it flow.
And I’m telling you this as a man: Men cry too. It just means you really give a
shit about something.
> Everyone knows that a
I always assume that thinking is going to solve my problems.
I assume that the more mental effort I put into something, the greater the
outcome will be. And sometimes, that works. But
I was never good at hiding pain. I would hold everything in and do the best I
could to keep it together. The most I would reveal is a little desperation
behind my
If you plucked a random person off the street and looked into their mind, you’d
find a matrix of hopes, dreams, fears, and pain.
The burdens people carry can be impossible to
You haven’t been ok for a while. Things are feeling stale. Your routine is
killing you. You catch yourself fantasizing about faraway places, exotic
activities, seeing someone new, being someone new.
Sometimes
I don’t need to tell you that the world is struggling right now.
People are tired. People are scared. People are hostile. People are addicted. I
won’t get into specifics. You
Has anyone ever told you, “You better enjoy this time. These are the best years
of your life.” How did that make you feel?
What if those years weren’t your best? What
I was at the gym, and my mental state took a dive.
I’ve freaked out in public before, and I was beginning to show signs of not
being ok again. But then
In recent years, neurologists
[https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/the-science-of-sleep-understanding-what-happens-when-you-sleep#:~:text=Researchers%20also%20believe%20that%20sleep,sleep%2C%20their%20health%20risks%20rise.]
, psychologists, [https://www.apa.org/topics/sleep/why] and athletic
I lost my faith when I was 19. After spending time on the internet and
reflecting on everything I’d experienced, I realized that my beliefs about
religion were wrong. I had no
I support anyone who is going to therapy, especially now.
Micheal Phelps [https://www.talkspace.com/michael], the greatest olympian who
ever lived, is openly seeking and supporting therapy. Despite mastering one of
It’s safe to say that we suffer the most when we’re alone. And some of our
strongest moments are when we whisper to ourselves, “I’m not going to stop.”
But
When I was thirteen, intrusive thoughts dominated my reality.
If I had a bad thought about someone in my life, I felt my relationship with
them would become dishonest from that point forward,
“You want me to do what?” I asked my therapist.
“We’re going to do the empty chair technique.”
“You’re going to sit in this chair, and then you’re going to
I’m turning 29 soon. I was hoping to keep a realistic, level-headed perspective
about my age. But no, it got under my skin.
My mind went into disaster mode.
Instead of feeling
