You know that feeling you get when you see someone the same age as you, or
younger, doing better than you?
You probably put yourself through hell comparing yourself to others. We all
> “A person’s success in life can be measured by the number of uncomfortable
conversations he or she is willing to have.” – Tim Ferris
I bet you have something in you that needs
Everyone says you aren’t supposed to care what people think. But most of us
still do.
We get caught up in the teenager mentality of climbing social ladders, making
good impressions, and
When I was 20, I was afraid of everything. What people thought, the universe, my
feelings, speaking, failing, succeeding, and just being alive. Everything felt
like a boundary, and I had nowhere to
Have you ever heard this quote from Dune
[https://dune.fandom.com/wiki/Litany_Against_Fear]?
> I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings
total obliteration. I
Dan Peña is a bastard [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDLSaWsECz93uRk8m7ZtN5A]
, but you can learn from him.
He’s a businessman who’s been working as a success coach for the past two
Have you ever run from what you needed most? If you have, then you may have
chosen death.
When it came time to follow through on your commitment, or keep your promise, or
> The fundamental cause of the trouble is that in the modern world the stupid are
cocksure while the intelligent are full of doubt.” – Bertrand Russell
[https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/6050-the-fundamental-cause-of-the-trouble-is-that-in-the]
Nice people
Thinking is wonderful when it’s not ruining your life. Wondering, pondering, and
reflecting are necessary and important. But overthinkers know how often thoughts
can lead to self-destruction.
I always valued the saying,
We are experiencing a loneliness epidemic
[https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/02/young-adults-teens-loneliness-mental-health-coronavirus-covid-pandemic/]
in the western world.
Modern life creates barriers to connecting with others that did not exist in the
Sometimes you get the vibe that you don’t belong.
You can’t call it a consequence of being introverted. Many introverts excel in
social situations. No, I’m talking about feeling uncomfortably
Social anxiety is an illusion fueled by false beliefs and low self-esteem.
Bad experiences, rotten relationships, and weird upbringings make people believe
that communication is dangerous and that rejection will shatter their souls
Imagine you’re an Olympic athlete. A sprinter. It’s the one hundred-meter dash.
You plan on running faster than any human has ever run, and you’re favored to
win.
You’ve
In The Elements of Style (a writing book), the author’s English professor,
William Strunk, was obsessed with tearing down weak writing. He hated any form
of expression that held itself back. To
Here's how to know if you've been used for narcissistic supply. You've heard
things like...
“I just wanted to see how you’d react.”
“It’s no fun if you don’t fight
You want to talk about self-consciousness? Here's a little story:
I was 15 years old. My hair was greasy, my voice was shaky, and I stumbled
awkwardly into my art class. I didn’
What are you really doing when you're apologizing?
“Feeling regret or penitence” is one definition
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When it came to self-defeat, I was undefeated.
I took every opportunity to rob myself of happiness, prevent progress, and slap
my own face. I was a tyrant to myself, and I thought
Being locked in your head makes it hard to be social. I should know.
If I was around people I didn’t know, I would feel like an unwelcome stranger. I
looked perfectly
This is what social anxiety and self-denial look like. And this is what you
should never, ever do. No matter how shy you are.
I took a leap in 2018. I went on
“How the hell did she not hear me?”
I was making small talk with a customer at my job. I said something clearly,
audibly, and without mumbling, to her face. She completely ignored
I botched the shit out of a handshake today. It’s still gnawing at me. Have you
ever done that?
My jiu-jitsu coach was the victim.
We had just finished our sparring session
Terence McKenna [https://psychedelicreview.com/person/terence-mckenna/] did a
lot of drugs.
That’s an understatement. Timothy Leary, the figurehead of the 60s LSD
counterculture, called him the “Timothy Leary of the 90s.
It’s amazing how a person can get lost in their own head. An OCD Thought Loop
will do that.
When I was a kid, I developed the strangest obsession. And, no lie,
